Sensitivity And Knowing, Part 3

Last time I spoke about instinct in our refresher on the subject. This time I'd like you to try something different.

I'd like you to take note when you're in a place that's crowded - glance around and see if your eyes happen to fall on someone - not necessarily someone that you find attractive but someone you don't know and have never met and yet, a place where you feel reasonably safe. Perhaps a large meeting, perhaps a convention where you all have similar interests or perhaps simply someplace where there's a sporting event perhaps going on that you're all attending so you have similar interests there too and if you feel like it at a distance speak to the person. Just say - hey isn't this great or something non committal like that.

Also in a crowded situation, say in an elevator, you could if you catch the eye of someone just say - make some little remark saying - it's like sardines isn't it - referring to the way sardines are stuffed in a can.

Do you know that such remarks and little quips and sometimes jokes were always the thing that people said in the past and people would laugh and the humor would be something that would help calm a difficult situation. Many of you know this but not most.

The fact that in crowded situations - which are going to become increasingly the norm for a while - that these little jokes are not said so often is because we are sensitive. Yes, even when we're packed into someplace like an elevator or perhaps a subway train we are sensitive and often that sensitivity is expressed in fear or confusion - but it is time to begin to notice our friends and allies whom we don't know and have never met. That's the key here. So - that's what I'd like you to do.

It might just be that in that packed elevator or packed subway the person who chuckles or glances at you even shyly might be different than the one that you thought might be the one that would react to you. If that happens and if you feel even reasonably comfortable then see if you can strike up a conversation with that person and if you feel comfortable and safe go to coffee or something with them and see if you can make a friend.

It is important now to discover the comforts and the valuable aspects of instinct.

I'm not going to encourage you to do something that would be death defying. Rather I'm going to encourage you to improve the quality of your life by increasing the circle of your friends and this is what I'm suggesting for you right now.

I did say that it could be embarrassing - if things don't work out, if nobody looks at you but - shrug it off and try it again another time. That's what I recommend.

Goodlife to you all and goodnight.